DEAR ABBY: Our 26-year-old college-educated grandson “Ethan” had an accident with his company car and was arrested for DWI and possession of more than one gram of cocaine. His mother has hired a lawyer, posted bail and takes full charge of the situation. Ethan lost his responsible job and his girlfriend kicked him out. He has a considerable inheritance, enough to pay the lawyer and the fine. Since he’s never been in trouble before, we hope he doesn’t go to jail.
Although we love Ethan very much, his father and I agree that he should handle this on his own without his mother (who recently divorced our son) running to his aid. Ethan also needs help with his addictions. He has enough funds in the 529 account to turn this big mistake into an opportunity to go back to college and get a master’s degree.